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3 ways to stop being so ‘busy’…….(and improve your health)

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‘I can’t I’m busy’  ‘I”m just so busy’  ‘I cannot believe how busy I am!’  ‘I’ve worked XX hours today!’  Busy, busy, busy…… but is it really something to be proud of? And at what point is being a busy bee actually affecting your health, happiness and fulfilment? I work with women everyday who are experiencing anxiety, depression, sadness or a lacklustre feeling that life just isn’t all it should be…. the common theme with at least 75% of them – they are so busy being busy. In fact their commitment to being busy is directly impacting their contentment from life as they feel guilty for doing things they love due to a feeling that doing these daily tasks that keep them busy is a prerequisite to their life. With the rise in use of social media and the internet we know we can effectively work 24/7. We can Christmas…

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3 things you can learn from my Eating Disorder….

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Eating Disorders often become one of those judgemental taboo subjects – we see television, magazines and social media body shaming, we hear flippant remarks of ‘my god is she anorexic!’ passed around as easily as the names of celebrities… but what we actually know about them is very little. Much like many taboo subjects eating disorders make many people feel uncomfortable, and as such they avoid any discussion about them. Behind closed doors they may discuss a friend, family member or work colleague who they have noticed has ‘different’ eating habits but the likelihood of someone actually sitting down and having that uncomfortable conversation with someone is unlikely. I should know – I had one. I was late to the game, at 26, to develop an eating disorder isn’t as expected as if I had been a teenager, and being older (and in full time employment) I had more control…

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5 Things to do when you’re exhausted…..

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In a world that seems to never stop what do we do when it all catches up with us? The reality is that we can’t just push the pause button and so when barriers, obstacles or difficulties crop up we still need to go to work, look after our families and do the housework and whilst what we really want is to curl up in a ball it can sometimes be….impossible. But what impact does it have on our health? When we have conflicts that occur in our home lives they can take multiple forms: Bereavements Family conflicts Stress at work Breakups of relaionships Illness Financial worries ….the list goes on Some of these can be easily resolved, others may pass in a short amount of time, and some slowly chip away at us over a period of time. With this comes the slow burn on our brain, as stress…

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5 reasons why anxiety in teenagers is increasing and how you can help

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The NHS defines anxiety as “a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe”, it’s prevalence in the population has seen a steady increase over recent years and in 2016 Mind.uk identified that around 6 in 100 people suffer with anxiety issues and Anxiety UK suggest that 1 in 6 teenagers will experience anxiety. This means that on average there will be around 5 children in any given classroom experiencing anxiety symptoms at any one time. The Fundamental Facts of Mental Health Paper 2016 found that ‘in the UK, women are almost twice as likely as men to be diagnosed with anxiety disorders. From the APMS (2014) results it can be deduced that, in England, 6.8% of all women were diagnosed with general anxiety disorder compared to 4.9% of all men.’ It was shown that generalised anxiety disorder diagnosis’ rose from 4.4% in 2007 to…

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Child Therapy – From a child’s perspective… (testimonial)

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I really love my therapy and coaching work with young people, their imaginations and willingness to open up and explore the child therapy techniques I offer means that they often experience big breakthroughs in 1-6 sessions (depending on the reason for attending). So you can imagine how touched I was when I received this beautiful story from one of my 12 year old clients which she submitted to a local radio station story writing contest, it looks at the session we completed to help her find some inner peace and joy…. she even had the chance to meet Brian my therapy dog! I’ll let her say the rest…    “Once there was a girl named Poppy and she was a big worrier for many reasons that cannot be explained. One day something life changing happened; she was going to see her one and only hero, worry expert Nicki Edwards and her…

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Perfectionism, Stress, School and our Teenagers

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Having worked with the 16+ age group for 14 years this year (still feels like yesterday that I started) it’s been an interesting concept to watch the changes in mindset, challenges and mental health. One of the key things that is becoming more and more noticeable is that a higher number of teenagers and young people are striving to obtain a level of perfectionism that is causing higher levels of: Stress Anxiety Worry And in more extreme cases: Disordered eating Self-harming behaviours If you read my previous blog ‘Is the world causing our children anxiety‘ you’ll already know that I discussed the influence of social media and technology on our children’s limbic brain development (the part of the brain responsible for emotional behaviours) if not it is worth a perusal to look at the statistics released in the Child Mental Health Report 2017 where we see the links between social…

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3 reasons telling someone to ‘push through’ anxiety doesn’t work

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Whilst my work often takes me into the treatment of anxiety there are some common themes that I see when working with clients (children, teens and adults) which come from well-meaning friends and family but are having catastrophic or distressing results for the individual struggling with anxious thought and feelings. This week’s blog explores three reasons why telling someone to ‘push through’ anxiety could be having a crippling result and be ending in tears… Please note – the scenarios and examples used are related to anxiety and should not be confused with nerves or adrenaline from excitement e.g. pre-performance nerves. Reason #1 – It’s not safe for their brain The brain’s key job is to keep us alive and to keep us safe. In situations where the brain experiences a situation which feels unsafe or creates anxious feelings the subconscious creates a pattern of behaviour that this is ‘NOT SAFE’…

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Being Unapologetically You….

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I was driving down to Worthing last week to the recording studio (we’re busy creating the next batch of the Adventures of Brian Audio Books) and as I sat at the railway crossing I watched a family walk past. Mum and dad were chatting, their son wandering close by, and just behind was their daughter… dancing and jumping along the pavement. It was their daughter who caught my attention, as she leapfrogged the bollards along the pavement, hopscotched across the squares of the pavement slabs and danced down the street with her family her ability to be so unapologetically herself was touching. You may have noticed how children have the ability to lose themselves in their play, not yet affected by the world’s opinions, oblivious to the concept of conformity there is nothing more beautiful than a child who is unapologetically themselves. I work with so many adults who are…

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4 ways to stop the straw breaking the camels back (and save your social life)

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You know that old saying ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back?’ well I want to tell you that in the majority of cases it isn’t the thing you have the greatest issue with. The problem with problems is that we collect them. Once we have a highly negative experience we can find ourselves overwhelmed with issues. The problem is we tend to focus on the most recent of these issues and not the cause of the pressure on our brain. We also inevitably do not notice the problem until it is so great the consequence is greater…. or do we? In this week’s blog I want to share 4 signs and actions you can use to ensure that the straw does not break the camel’s back and inevitably prevent it from breaking you…. Let me start with an example (fictitious scenario)…..Emily is getting married, she has waited for a…

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2 reasons why your friend is making you feel uncomfortable and how to deal with it!

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Ever had those days when your friend/partner is making you feel uncomfortable? But not because you hate them…just something is – well off? And I don’t mean in the stagnant water way! The thing is, at times we will find that friends or partners (or even family members) really get under our skin. Our first retaliation is to blame them for it… But what if it’s YOU? Eek…. yep I said it… it’s highly likely it’s you! Before you contemplate killing me for that statement let me explain where I am going with this… Sometimes our friends just drive us insane…. we can love them from the bottom of our hearts, and adore them completely, we would walk over hot coals for them – but still the very second they text/call/email/Facebook/turn up you feel uncomfortable, irritable or just like there is a glitch in the system. Here’s two reasons why…….

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Are your friendships damaging your mental health?

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Are your friendships damaging your mental health? Limiters, enablers or encouragers…… what on earth am I on about? With social media taking over all communication, texts a preference and knowing (or even having) a home phone quickly becoming a thing of the past the one thing that it does allow is for us to watch personality types and friendship types become visual. We can also begin to understand how mental health has decreased as social media increases. In the past we couldn’t so easily see the behaviours of those around us as they disappeared as quickly as the person vacating. With the wonders of a technological age and social media being used so widely it allows us see things we may not have seen before (if we open our eyes to them). I’ll start with a story to explain my point…. Those who follow my blogs from A Step at…

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Client Testimonial: Weight Loss Hypnotherapy

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Client Testimonial – Hypnotherapy Gastric Band (2 stone lost) Helen shares her story of the Hypnotherapy Gastric Band Treatment which has helped her lose 4 stone in the last year and completely change her life and outlook. “I have always struggled with losing weight and then putting it all back on again as soon as I start to make progress. No matter how much I wanted it, no matter how I didn’t want to snack. How I wanted to be good, but something would be niggling at me and i’d be in and out of the kitchen cupboards desperately searching for something sweet I must have overlooked that must be there, even after the 4th time checking, it was compulsion I’d have to keep looking. I was at a stage at one point in my life where I could not sleep on my back because I would get water in…

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I need to find myself…… A client account of BWRT 2

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BWRT 2 Treatment is a fantastic new treatment which launched at A Step at a Time in September 2016, it focusses on removing the limitations that are created from negative self-labels and identity confusion. For example a client who feels worthless will struggle to achieve their weight loss goals as they do not feel worthy, so BWRT allows you to create your ‘ideal self’ and move forward with confidence and conviction. A versatile and effective treatment the results are phenomenal. Over a 4 week process you will meet once a week to complete the treatment, and by week 3 the results are already showing. This case study follow sone client’s results….. Client Case Study: I started working with Nicky 4 weeks ago and as I sit here today, I can’t believe how effective this technique is. Nicky herself, is a consumate professional and her enthusiasm, passion and belief for this…

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5 factors that slow down results after a Hypnotherapy Gastric Band

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Many clients come to see me as they know someone who has had great results from a virtual gastric band. The successes are great, but what factors can affect success from being at the speed desired? 1.Overthinking – Overthinking is the biggest stumbling block for this treatment. As Kerri (Face of ASAT) says ’embrace it and you will fly’ those clients who are the most successful fastest simply EMBRACE the treatment as their lifestyle, follow it daily with no excuses and do not question what they are doing. Wondering constant whether it is working or not, whether you are doing it right, whether you should be doing XYZ are all delaying you results and preventing you from reaching your goal as instead of listening to your body and your new mindset you are searching for an old mindset that we just spent 3 hours getting rid of. BEST TIP –…

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Client Gastric Band Feedback – Emma

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When did you start your treatment? I started my treatment in April 2015 after seeing how fantastic people I used to work with had done by having this treatment. What made you decide to choose hypnotherapy as a way to change your eating habits and lose weight? I had been dieting for the last 10 years using various different ones i.e. weight watchers, slimming world, slim fast etc, but I found that they only seemed to work for short amounts of time. I needed to do something that would change my life completely and hypnotherapy seemed the only way forward. Was the treatment what you expected? Why? I will be honest; the treatment was not what I was expecting at all. The procedure itself was a lot more than what I was expecting – I was not prepared for how powerful it was and how much my body had taken…

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