Stress Archives - A Step at a Time

Supporting Parent/Adult Mental Health

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Whilst I frequently write about child mental health, this blog is a shallow dive into adult mental health, to support parents, carers and wider family members who may need some support. Mental health, whilst a subject more frequently written and talked about, is still shrouded in its own elements of taboo and stigma. The reality, all of us have mental health. In its simplest form, mental health is a pendulum, swinging back and forth throughout our lives between good mental health and ill mental health.  Different life circumstances, situations and experiences may influence the pendulum in the short, medium or longer term. So, what dictates our responses to this? For the majority, core factors that affect our reactions and the impact and duration of the impact on our mental health include (but not exhaustive): Previous life experiences Our state of mental health at the time of the event Our resilience…

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Supporting children with angry feelings

Posted by | anger, anxiety, BWRT, Children's Therapy, confidence, low mood, self-esteem, Stress | No Comments

Why do we get angry?? Everyone has a different response to anger, and the reason for this is that everyone interprets the environment, relationships and situations differently. This is dependent on previous experience, developmental stage and our understanding of our own emotions and triggers. As such, no response to a situation is right or wrong, but merely our own response formed from our pre-learnt reactions. For children, as their brain development is in an escalated period and changing daily, their response to situations may not be what is deemed ‘acceptable’ or ‘desired’ but will, like our own responses, be a response to the emotions that they are feeling internally and the learnt responses they have developed to date. These may be their ‘fight-flight-freeze-faint’ responses, they may be responses learnt from previous experiences or they may be learnt responses from the people around them. So, where do these responses come from?…

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How to recognise signs of poor mental health in children and 5 ways to support children at home.

Posted by | anxiety, Children's Therapy, confidence, depression, emotional eating, grief, low mood, parent separation, self-belief, self-esteem, separation anxiety, Stress, Teenagers, well-being | No Comments

The thing about mental health, is that we all have it. If we imagine it as a swinging pendulum, throughout out life times, our mental health moves between good mental well-being and poor mental well-being, depending on life circumstances, events and situations. Everyone can have days when their mental health feels more sensitive, but for some, realising that their mental health is suffering and needs support can be a shock. For children and teenagers, brain development is ever changing and moving, children’s pre-frontal cortex – the part of the brain that supports rational thought, seeing perspectives, solving problems and regulation continues its development throughout childhood and adolescence. So, we cannot expect our children to know how to manage their own feelings without guidance and support. In addition, as their primary responses come from their limbic brain system we can often see strong emotions, reactive and instinctive responses to issues –…

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Motivating children, teenagers (and adults) to get things done

Posted by | boredom, Children's Therapy, confidence, excuses, self-belief, Stress, Teenagers | No Comments

Motivation is the word on everyone’s lips right now, at its fundamental core, as the world becomes a peculiar place and boredom and monotony sets in, removing us from the from the initial novelty factor how do we help our children and teenagers (as well as ourselves) to get motivated, and most importantly, is that even what we need? What is motivation? Motivation is defined as: “a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way”. Motivation can be intrinsic – coming from us, where we have a personal motivation to achieve something or extrinsic – where we do something because we are told to, or there is a reward for it e.g. money, success It indicates that we have a desire, or purpose which drives us to get things done. But, how does that fare in a pandemic? When we have countless days ahead of us? No…

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Supporting Separation Anxiety in Older Children

Posted by | Adventures of Brian, anxiety, Children's Therapy, confidence, self-esteem, sensitive children, separation anxiety, Stress | No Comments

In many cases, people can forget that older children can be as prone to separation anxiety as younger children and toddlers. In fact, as the years tick by, as a therapist, I see more and more children experiencing separation anxiety. What does it look like? In its simplest terms, separation anxiety, is when a child, teen or an adult is scared/afraid to be away from a particular person. Albeit a parent, guardian, partner or a pet. The concept of being apart from them creates severe anxiety. This can include physical and emotional symptoms: Headaches Stomach aches Crying / distress Begging or pleading not to leave Screaming Panic (inc. shaking, hiding) Retching or being sick Fear of leaving the significant person A fear that something ‘bad’ will happen if they are not with them A fear of being alone Refusal to sleep alone Refusal to sleep away from home / away…

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Teens, mental health timelines and cabin fever (How to cope)

Posted by | anxiety, boredom, child therapy, confidence, depression, low mood, self-belief, Stress, Teenagers, trauma | No Comments

Over the last week, I have spoken to more teens and parents who are experiencing the impact of the emotions rollercoaster created by cabin fever. This can include feelings of: Increased anxiety Decreased mood Heightened frustration Increased feelings of being trapped Increased feelings of anger, annoyance and irritability The realities of cabin fever, are that many of us are feeling exhausted, trapped and annoyed right now, and the quicker we put in place constructive systems to help us manage the feelings and build our resilience that better the outcomes for our mental health. Some early signs that we need to be aware of, that may indicate your teen (or you) is beginning to struggle are: Sleeping more – or using sleep to avoid things Motivation has dropped Avoidance of activities, interactions or learning Increased screen time Use of electronics to avoid, distract or escape Increased or decreased eating habits Less…

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5 factors that slow down results after a Hypnotherapy Gastric Band

Posted by | anxiety, BWRT, Children's Therapy, hypnotherapy, hypnotherapy gastric band, Responsive Therapy, Stress, Testimonials, Uncategorised, Weight Loss | No Comments

Many clients come to see me as they know someone who has had great results from a virtual gastric band. The successes are great, but what factors can affect success from being at the speed desired? 1.Overthinking – Overthinking is the biggest stumbling block for this treatment. As Kerri (Face of ASAT) says ’embrace it and you will fly’ those clients who are the most successful fastest simply EMBRACE the treatment as their lifestyle, follow it daily with no excuses and do not question what they are doing. Wondering constant whether it is working or not, whether you are doing it right, whether you should be doing XYZ are all delaying you results and preventing you from reaching your goal as instead of listening to your body and your new mindset you are searching for an old mindset that we just spent 3 hours getting rid of. BEST TIP –…

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Why do we feel bad for saying we feel low?

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Depression, low mood, negative thoughts and loneliness…. Why do we struggle so much with talking about them? In a society where communication methods is rife it seems counterproductive that our mental health statistics are of the highest we have ever seen? So what is contributing? And why do we find it so hard to support? 1. We assume – because someone posts something positive on their social media accounts we assume they are happy. The issue being that often those struggling will not say anything, how many suicide cases do you hear where people say ‘but they didn’t say ahything’. Unfortunately our powers of assumption can mean that seeing positive status’ mean we think all is well so can be less likely to pick up the phone and say ‘are you ok’ 2. We close down – many people struggle to know what to say when someone is in a…

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Would you believe me if I said you were beautiful?

Posted by | anxiety, body-image, hypnotherapy, hypnotherapy gastric band, Responsive Therapy, self-belief, self-esteem, self-image, Stress | No Comments

Why don’t we listen to compliments? I remember years ago dating a guy who one evening when I met him for dinner said ‘my god you’re beautiful’ and I laughed and asked him if he was blind. When we split up (he’s still a good mate) he said to me that one of the most irritating things about dating me was that I would NEVER accept a compliment and that actually it was really hurtful when he really meant it. In retrospect he was right, I would dismiss his positive comments and just criticise myself instead, sad as I could have enjoyed the moment So why do we feel compelled to batter down anyone who compliments us? Why must we belittle ourselves to such a degree that we do not think we deserve to be told that we deserve some positive feedback? Those compliments are actually signs of changes, of…

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Are you overthinking everything?

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Do you find yourself constantly questioning everything? Do you have the simplest task to complete and procrastinate over it for hours? Do you need to lose weight but spend so long questioning whether its working you don’t see your results? Are you finding yourself going round in circles because you cannot focus on anything? Are you just a classic over thinker? The funny thing is that I spend a lot of my time working with people that drive themselves overthinking absolutely everything! To the point it is causing them distress or stress and in some cases even anxiety. In some cases it starts affecting relationships as the client is finding themselves doubting, questioning or double checking everything that their partner says and can never just live in the moment…. We’ve all been there with some kind of situation, whether its been a issue at work, a mistake that we have…

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